Our Words, And How They Affect Others

Our words can affect others more than we realize sometimes.  Let’s face it, we all do it…say something we which we had not said.   And then we beat ourselves up, or someone else does, for that tactless slip that we cannot believe we just uttered.  We can apologize, but sometimes what was said, or what others have said to us, stays ingrained for a long time.  Talk about a lasting impression!

That’s why it’s so important to stop and think before we speak.

This passage is one of my favorites. 

My heart is stirred by a noble theme
    as I recite my verses for the king;
    my tongue is the pen of a skillful writer.

You are the most excellent of men
    and your lips have been anointed with grace,
    since God has blessed you forever.

Psalm 45:1-2

 

We are not perfect.  Learning graceful speech may take time, and I know it will be worth it.

Here are some more resources to consider.

  • A gentle answer turns away wrath,
        but a harsh word stirs up anger.  -Proverbs 15:1 
  • article states that words can change your brain and affect your genes.  
  • The old saying, “You can catch more flies with honey, than vinegar,” I believe is profound.  

It’s important we condition ourselves to speak kindly, or with tact, when words need to be spoken.  So, when speaking to others today, speak kindly, and think kind thoughts.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”  -Wendy Mass, The Candymakers

 

Have a good day,

Sincerely, BG

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What Kind of Seeds are We Sowing?

 

Everyday we have to look at ourselves and ask, “What kind of seeds are we sowing?”  When the dark clouds arise, and the storms are a brew, we may wonder what we did to deserve this.  We may not deserve the dark clouds and storms, but in life, things happen, and we have to plan to plant seeds of goodness, despite what others are sowing.

Tony Robbins wrote this in a book many years ago:

“Act.  Don’t react.”  -Tony Robbins

He emphasized that no matter what someone else does, you get to choose how you want to respond.  So if you normally would respond with kindness, goodness and understanding you can, because that is your choice.  It’s not always easy to do when that touch of ire in your blood comes out, so make your choice ahead of time…”I will respond in kindness and truth.”

Even in a place of conflict, we must state our grievance and then forgive the other party, whether they ask for it, or not.  That releases you from carrying that burden around.

You may decide that you need to cast your seeds in another field, in richer and better soil, and leave that field behind.  Never stay in a field where others are trying to diminish the seed you’ve been given, either with unkindness or disrespect.  Decide for yourself if it was a slight oversight, or an act of disrespect, and continue planting your seeds of goodness.

Use your writing therapy to help you see things clearly. It’s a great stress reliever.

Robert Louis Stevenson quoted:

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seed that you plant.  -Robert Lewis Stevenson.

In the end, our lives will boil down to one thing…”What kind of seeds did we sow?”  Did we sow seeds of love, honesty, kindness, or did we sow seeds of ill will, and disrespect?  Sow good seeds…it matters.

Have a good day,

Sincerely, BG

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Going Through

For each passage in life there is a “going through.”  This is moving from one point to another, or from one season to another.  In these seasons, these “going through” points move you along.

But, what if something knocks you out of kilter like storms, forest fires, earthquakes and massive flooding?  How do you take your typical problems which turn to major catastrophes and deal with them?

At this posting, Hurricane Harvey hit the Texas coast a couple of weeks ago, and Hurricane Irma, the largest hurricane recorded in history in the Atlantic, just made landfall yesterday on the coast of Florida.  It has pushed its way completely up the peninsula of Florida, and  is now downgraded to a tropical storm and continuing to push its havoc out into other states with winds and rains.  There are forest fires in the west U.S., an 8.2 earthquake hit Mexico this past week, and there is flooding in India, Nepal and Bangladesh.  Plus in the U.S. today, it is our day or Remembrance for 9/11.

As we wait to hear of news from loved ones and friends…

I have a list of 7 things to help us through these trials.

Let’s:

Pray it through:  1 Thes 5:17 –  pray without ceasing

Walk it through: Psalm 23:4 – Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

Believe it through: Heb 11:1 – Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

See it through: James 1:2-3 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

Laugh it through: Prov 17:22 – A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones.

Sing it through: Psalm 126:2 – Our mouths were filled with laughter, our tongues with songs of joy. Then it was said among the nations, “The Lord has done great things for them.”

and last, but not least…

Love it through: Mark 12:30-31 – And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment.  And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

I pray for your loved ones, as well as my own, and hope the 7 scriptures help you get through what you’re going through.

Sincerely, BG

 

Written On Life…


A written on life means writing on the tablet of your heart.  Each experience we have in life leaves something behind.  We can choose to take that experience and use it to learn from, and then put it behind us, or to write it on our hearts to use it as a lamp to light our paths.  My life is written on by His Word, and the verses I’ve learned since childhood.

My written on life also holds words of inspiration and encouragement from family and friends, as well as, poetry, articles, books, and pieces of art and beauty which fill me up with awe.  These are the things I cling to when I feel a crash coming, or when surprised by a sudden storm.  By embracing the beautiful, you can make the ugly, or not so attractive, smaller.

Everyone has storms, forest fires, and gale force winds which blow through at times.  Despite what appears, the sun does not shine everyday, everywhere. That is the illusion presented.  Ignoring problems can make the storms last longer, and fixing the problems will give you more time to focus on your shining star.

We all need rain to grow, but we don’t all like rainy days.  It’s on those rainy days when our insecurities or weaknesses show up that a chance for change occurs. When this happens, take an introspective look at the changes needed.  Make a plan, pray, and work on it, until optimism and peace arrive, and/or when you can see some advancement. Plans are a process to change.  If you can’t fix them by yourself, get help from a trusted friend, or a counselor.

A written on life is a genuine life, where you can show who you are and be honest about your triumphs and defeats.  You get to write your course, or right your course, which ever you choose.  You take where God is leading, or what piques your interest, and turn it into full-blown inspiration, and then make that a bigger focus.

I love writing to shower others with love, kindness, and to uplift and honor my family and friends.  Though we all want lovely days, there will be times when things won’t go well.  This is not a “Polly Wolly Doodle All the Day” path.  It still requires us to deal with life’s struggles.  You will be in store for some tedious days, but they will be useful for learning lessons about forgiveness and/or approaching things differently, and for seeing chinks in your armor.

My son, daughter, husband, and my dear friend, Cathy have all counseled me over the last several days to help me get my thoughts in order and flip my perspective on some things that had come up against me.  Sometimes it takes my army.  Thankfully, I have these loved ones to turn to when storms come, as well as my brother and sister.

And, I know they all will tell me what they think, whether I like it or not… not to be contentious, but to help me.  They are looking out for my good.  Find some trusted friends who look out for your good.  Then be a trusted friend who looks out for the good of others.

Using your written on life, His way, with writing, and prayer, can help you work on habits you want/need to change, as well as focusing on all of things you love. Even the most optimistic folks around go through days when they don’t know which way to go, but they choose to look at the gifts given them, and express their gratitude often.

For me, I get to take God’s word and write it on my heart…and have Him help me define my life, and not have it defined by others.

Start your journey and write it out.

May you have a happy and healthy written on life.

Sincerely, BG

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*(This article is opinion only.  I am not a certified counselor or therapist.  Though growing closer to the age of Methuselah should qualify me for said opinion.)