Frustration…How Do You Deal With It?

Life doesn’t always go as planned. It seems like I just heard this yesterday.  Oh yes, I did, in a video by an author friend.

I will have to go watch the video again.

There  are days, or weeks, when life throws something out of the ordinary at us, and we get frustrated.

Frustration, how do you deal with it?

Find a place, or a space to calm down, and look at the situation as it really is. Walk away.  Get  perspective.  Even laugh if you can.  Most often, in the scheme of things, this is only major for the moment, and not for a lifetime.  Find a place of peace, figure it out.  Maybe, make a post about your annoyance.  Write.  It is cathartic.  Get your feelings on papers.  It could turn into a story.

And then pretend that you didn’t tell someone you had something fixed, to find out the system went bonkers on you.  You can work it out.  You will laugh about it a week from now.  Maybe tomorrow isn’t your day to laugh, but soon you will laugh.

Work on fixing the problem and being honest about it.  This is my honestly part. No one is perfect, and sometimes it’s good to let others see how life is.

And so now…off to church.  It is well…  It is well…  With my soul.

Sincerely, BG

p.s.  Go find Kathy Henn and watch her video on Facebook Live.






Writing With Patience or Intensity?

Writing with patience or intensity?

Patience?  Hmmm…a foreign concept to me, though I know that patience is a virtue.  As you may have guessed, I do have a hard time harnessing patience.

So, how do you practice writing patience when a tsunami of words hit, and you’re fighting to capture every one of them?  You know the waters will rush back out to sea, leaving you deprived of a single element that makes sense if you don’t put it on paper now.  You recognize this.  It’s intense!  Right?

Write.  Keep writing…sense, and nonsense, and then sort it out later.

An opportunity will arise when you can take your proverbial scalpel to cut away those things that aren’t needed, and then add elements that bring more sense and comprehension to the picture. Sometimes, the nonsensical spurs new ideas. It’s hard when emotions are high, and you’re trying to use this flow to go with the tide.  Tides turn.  Capture what you can.  Be patient.  It will come.

I just had a wise friend tell me to leave something sit, and come back to it.  I took her advice, and she was correct.  I was able to look at my written piece and improve it.  This takes patience.  Crafting and editing takes time.   If your piece is “dogging you” too badly, work on something else for a while.

And then, this week I read an ebook by an author who suggested you ask five friends to write three things about you to help your find your writing voice.  It was also to help you see your blind side.   I did that.  I had some nice things sent back to me, and this is the one that stuck in my brain…

INTENSE…  (Who?  Me?)

Well, honestly, I kind of knew this, and I appreciated the honesty because I knew this person was trying to help me.  Then they told me that this was a good thing.  I found that fact a little befuddling, until they explained.

They said that I was intense to the point of making sure that I tried to get everything right, and I would keep working at it until I did. (Can I tell you how much I love my … this family member.)

So, with your writing, use both intensity and patience.  Write what you love, and be kind to yourself.  But most of all, find your own voice.  Keep writing.


Sincerely, BG

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Quotes and Analogies To Learn From

Don’t you just love quotes and analogies?  They can make your day, lift you up, and cause you to see things in a different way.  I’ve come across a few of them this week that have bumped around inside my brain like nagging thoughts tend to do.   I’ve pondered them, and considered not only how they help me to see things in a different way, but also how they touch me.

I actually love this picture, and the quote above by Josh Billings, because it makes me think of our two Jack Russell terriers that we lost a couple of years ago.  This saying for me is true… (and what a great love it is.)

“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.”

-Josh Billings


So, on to the next analogy.   I just heard this one a bit ago on a podcast by someone I follow.  The quote was by  guest, John Pollack, who is an author and former political writer.


His quote:

“Money comes and goes, but time only goes.”

-John Pollack


Well, that certainly makes you consider how you’re spending your time.

The next quote, found on a tweet by someone I follow and honestly, I don’t remember who the author of the quote is (I apologize).  The quote:


“You can do anything, But not everything.”

-David Allen  (I looked it up.)


Three different quotes I’ve been mulling over, like a dog with a bone.  (I couldn’t help myself.)   “If I can do anything, but not everything, and time goes, and my dog loves me more than he loves himself…

Then, I better stop wasting time, do what I love, and spend more time with the people I love because time is fleeting, your passion is worth it, and so are your loved ones.

Now, back to the thoughts, quotes, and analogies that rivet your soul… take a moment to write them, and consider them.  You may learn something, and if you share them, someone else may see a little more clearly.

What can I say,  I love quotes and analogies.  Words just do it for me.  Analogies are great ways to explain ideas, and make for writing better passages.  They even help us to clarify, and simplify.

Leave me an analogy or quote in the comments.  I’ll be looking for them today.   It will only expand our view.

Have a great day!

Sincerely, BG


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Choose You This Day…

Choose You This Day…
is to appoint your day for something good. Every day, use your abilities and opportunities, to choose your day, or to choose how you react in a given situation. There are many who need you to make a great choice. With one stroke of a pen, a tap of a key, or a word from your mouth, you add cheer, comfort, or not, to another’s day.

This life is not all about us.  It’s about giving and helping each other.  How many people do you know who have succeeded on their own?

There’s always someone behind the scenes in any success story,  or successful relationship, lifting them up, giving them advice, or helping them to change directions.   Ultimately that direction is yours to choose, but it comes at the cost of others’ efforts of meshing with you to make an enjoyable contribution for you both.   It takes two to converse, and it takes you being a friend to make a friend.

This quote was a contributing factor to this post today.

“My friends, ‘No man is an island.’  Whatever you are facing, God has not abandoned you, and neither should you abandon each other.”

-Billy Green, “Kiss and Tell Your Story”

Then, this morning I read a blog post where the author was talking about how to deal with criticism in your blog post.  He did well on his reply.  Sometimes, a comment comes, and takes you off guard, but you have to learn not to react and be who you are in every situation.  (Tough to do at times.)

If you’re reading this, more than likely, you’re a writer.  So, for your plan of action today set some time aside to…write a note, make a post, send a card, sing a song, tell a joke, or draw a picture, for someone who needs some cheer in their lives.  When the tide is strong and the undertow is pulling you down, put a smile on your face and help another.  It is true what they say:

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

-Wendy Mass, The Candymakers

Sincerely, BG

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Authors Ready? Let’s Roll…

My childhood friend, Cathy, sent me this amazing article this week warning of floating fire ant colonies in Alabama after the flooding from Tropical Storm Cindy.  Fire ants interlock their bodies with each other to create balls, rafts, and bridges to rise above storm devastation.

We never knew much about fire ants until we moved to the South. They can infiltrate an area like no other, leaving nasty stings, and white blisters, behind in their wake, and when waters rise they gather, band together, float, and roll, until the water recedes.  We first learned of the dangers of them when my daughter, in her late twenties at that time, had her first fire ant attack, and discovered she was allergic. Fire Ants are powerful creatures and go to great lengths to protect their colonies.

You may wonder what this has to do with writing.  I was thinking of this article which Cathy sent, and another article which another friend, Monna Ellithorpe, has written on her new venture of “Authors Supporting Authors,”  and decided I liked the analogy of ants, and authors, interlocking on ideas and resources for making bridges, learning, and supporting each other.  (Unfortunately, as per some issues with one website… this program was taken down, but Monna is glad to help support you with your publishing needs. )

***Here’s the idea I have about it… and places that I collect thoughts and resources from.  All of these authors are not in the group.   


For more information on how to become an author … go to


Sincerely, BG


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Draw to Win and the Napkin Academy

There are times we come across things we love and we just have to share.  This post is about a book, an author, and site which the author, Dan Roam, hosts called the Napkin Academy.  I became acquainted with the author through a webinar last year, and was instantly fascinated with his ideas on using your visual mind for products and services.  Though, he focuses mainly on business,  these precepts translate into other areas of life as well.

One of Mr. Roam’s main concepts is using simple pictures for better communication.  His drawings enlighten the mind and he states that no matter your ability, you can learn to draw, and develop a better message through doing so.  (And let me tell you, my drawings are not wonderful, but Mr. Roam prompted me to continue and practice.)

During my time at the Napkin Academy, Mr. Roam brought in guest authors, artists, speakers, and other business professionals to draw integrating ideas together.  For me this process opened my mind to a realm I probably wouldn’t have noticed otherwise.  It’s amazing what you can see when someone cleans your glasses, and opens your eyes to new possibilities.

Dan Roam has other books and strategies to lead you further than this.  He trains fortune 500 companies in strategy development and communications, and comes across as just a regular guy.  He has a knack for breaking the complex down into simple terms, and this is only one reason I recommend him. There are many more.

I will put a video of a sample of my work and…

urge you to chuckle with me, but while doing so, remember, this- Dan Roam is a wonderful author whom you should check out.  In my view if you want to succeed, you need to “Draw To Win.”

You will find Dan Roam at the Napkin Academy.


Sincerely, BG

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Canva: A Great Resource for Writers

As writers we need graphics for our blogs, covers for our books, ads, social media posts, and sales letters for your books and articles.  Canva is a great place to find everything you need for free, or at a nominal price.  Canva gives the amateur a way to make graphics as if they were pro designers.  There are so many things that you can use Canva for.

If you still aren’t sure about how easy Canva is to use, there is a course called “Canva for Business,” created by Lillian De Jesus, at

I took this course that Lillian created a couple of years ago, and learned a lot.  I use Canva to make covers, add text to my social media graphics, and when adding text to book illustrations created for me.  Canva has so much to offer for today’s writer.  If you want more, be sure to take Lillian’s course.  I highly recommend it.

There are even newer ways to use Canva with their Stencil Program.  It’s another platform for setting post times on your blogs, and social media for your convenience.  I will confess I have not tried Stencil yet, and I’m sure there’s more than this.  I will be visiting it soon.

Canva for Work also includes a “Magic Resize” option for changing your graphics to fit different social media sites without having to redo the graphic.  Another favorite of mine is the ability to download your graphics with transparent backgrounds for social media and other work related projects.

This is definitely a must see site.

Go here and join Canva today! (This is not an affiliate link)

And then contact Lillian if you want to learn more about Canva options.


Sincerely, BG

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