The Creative Arts- Healing Therapy

Guest Post by Monna Ellithorpe ©2017

It doesn’t matter what branch of the Creative Arts you’re interested in; what matters is that you use your chosen art form to improve your health, especially if you are suffering from grief, depression, anxiety, panic attacks or even illnesses such as fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis or other forms of illness that affect your body and your quality of life.

There are many times in life that each of us have to deal with events and situations and while I realize not everyone reacts to life events or illnesses in the same way or can be distracted in the same way; but there does come a time that you can take the controls and try on your own to create a “Happy Place” and a new mindset for yourself. (Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor and I don’t have any kind of degrees, I only share what works for me).

My chosen saving action for myself is writing. No matter what I’ve done or have tried to do, I’ve always come back to writing. This may also happen for you if painting, drawing, singing, dancing, photography, cooking, music, reading, puzzles, coloring or walking interests you. There are many other of the arts that I haven’t named but the suggestions I give you will be based on writing which is what I use to go to “My Happy Place.”

Use any of your interests to help heal what you are experiencing in life. Now, I’m not telling anyone to stop medications or anything else that a doctor has recommended to you. I’m merely suggesting other forms of distraction.

We are living in such stressful times right now and on the upside of this, we have never had the opportunities that we have now to be and do almost anything you want.

You want to learn to paint? Go to YouTube, Udemy or search Google for painting lessons or classes. You will find both free and courses to pay for but most are priced at reasonable amounts that almost anyone can afford.

Take this approach and search for any form of Creative Arts that you want to learn and work with. Don’t limit yourself to the small list that I gave you above. There are so many things you can learn.

You are welcome to join us in our Facebook Group Create Yourself Through Writing https://www.facebook.com/groups/CreateYourselfThroughWriting

We are working to create more activity in the group, little by little. I know so many people are so very busy but think of our group as your “Happy Place” and share your dreams with us.

Monna Ellithorpe ©2017

 

 

 

 

 

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Writing Therapy: Methods to Knowing Who We Are and How to Live Well In Our Own Skin

Using words  in writing to entertain, tell narratives, uplift, educate, and delight are just one side of the silver coin; there is however another aspect of writing… “therapy.”  Writing to analyze thoughts, coordinate plans, and for thinking through deep concerns helps us to better know who we are and how to live well in our own skin.

This form of writing can help us process thoughts and find out “the who, what, when, where and how” of our concerns.

  1.  Who am I, and/or who do I aim to be?
  2.  What is the concern I’m dealing with?
  3.  When does/did this concern happen?
  4.  Where did I first notice it?
  5.  Why did it happen?
  6.  How am I going to work on the problem?

Asking ourselves these questions and then using writing therapy to work through our answers will help us to see any patterns that pop up.  At this point we can take measures to tweak or change those things needed for us to grow, and know ourselves better.  Read this article for more steps and practices: Psychology Today.

Most of us have a blind side.   And to our surprise when someone points it out to us, the options of changing this “something” through the writing therapy process are greater.  Using this practice gives us the ability to choose what to change, learn to accept who we are, and how to live well in our own skin.  Others may not like the changes they see, but it’s not about them.  This is our journey.  That’s not to say that we shouldn’t take wise council…but ultimately it is up to us.

Observing ourselves through practices in writing is good.

Introspection is good.  As William Godwin quotes:

“The philosophy of the wisest man that ever existed, is mainly derived from the act of introspection.”

-William Godwin

Developing a sense of self-confidence in ourselves, and what we are about, will benefit us, as well as others.  We have a better sense of who we are, and the direction we want to take in life, and in our writing careers.  It also shines a spotlight on the paths we have to choose from.  Writing therapy may seem simple, but this method can help us.

As children we learned kindness and compassion for others.  We also need kindness and compassion for ourselves.  When we are our best selves, then we can give the best of ourselves to others, in writing and in life.  Writing therapy helps you carry this out.  Here’s to us all finding the skin we love and living well in it.

 

Sincerely, BG

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Word Appeal- What Do Your Words Say?


Writing is about putting your thoughts on paper, arranged in a way to create word appeal for readers. Not only do writers long to create beauty, open minds and eyes, but they also want to say, “I care.  How can I help?”  What do your words say?

Like a jig saw puzzle, we work to find ways to inspire, and persuade with word appeal to help better inform, or create a joyous read for the reader.  There are many ways to go about this depending on your style and what you love to write about.

Review what you have written to find your style.  Practice writing phrases or words that move you, so that you can learn to move the reader.  Read daily. Write daily.  Don’t hesitate to cut words. Concise is best. (Subscribe on the left and grab 7 Tips to Writing Your Story.)

My brother has this awesome quote that I love, and the brilliance of it is that it came out of a casual conversation.

He didn’t think much of it because that’s how he thinks and talks, but to me it was monumental.  This one conversation completely changed how I viewed words.

It was fine with him for me to use this quote because he cares and shares.

“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”  -Zig Ziglar

Now the issue is to figure out how to group these words together not only to make them coherent, but to make them appealing and helpful to others. That is the process, taking each piece of the word puzzle, turning them, putting one or two back in the box, and finding the perfect spot to place the perfect word.

Sometimes, I review old blog posts, and passages in books and think, Maybe I could have said this better this way.  It’s part of the  process of  writing and tweaking to get your word appeal right.  And even if it’s not quite right the first time… write it, leave it sit and come back to it.  You can always improve it later. Sitting on your hands waiting for perfection is not likely to happen soon. Developing writing skills takes time.  Every day you grow a little more, you know a little more, and doing your best is the final outcome.  So, with every drip, drip of your word paintbrush… start your masterpiece.  One word upon another is just a couple of drops…but eventually, it might become a field of flowers.  Find an effective way to create word appeal to show you care.

And, always be you.

Sincerely, BG

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Frustration…How Do You Deal With It?

Life doesn’t always go as planned. It seems like I just heard this yesterday.  Oh yes, I did, in a video by an author friend.

I will have to go watch the video again.

There  are days, or weeks, when life throws something out of the ordinary at us, and we get frustrated.

Frustration, how do you deal with it?

Find a place, or a space to calm down, and look at the situation as it really is. Walk away.  Get  perspective.  Even laugh if you can.  Most often, in the scheme of things, this is only major for the moment, and not for a lifetime.  Find a place of peace, figure it out.  Maybe, make a post about your annoyance.  Write.  It is cathartic.  Get your feelings on papers.  It could turn into a story.

And then pretend that you didn’t tell someone you had something fixed, to find out the system went bonkers on you.  You can work it out.  You will laugh about it a week from now.  Maybe tomorrow isn’t your day to laugh, but soon you will laugh.

Work on fixing the problem and being honest about it.  This is my honestly part. No one is perfect, and sometimes it’s good to let others see how life is.

And so now…off to church.  It is well…  It is well…  With my soul.

Sincerely, BG

p.s.  Go find Kathy Henn and watch her video on Facebook Live.

 

 

   

 

 

Writing With Patience or Intensity?

Writing with patience or intensity?

Patience?  Hmmm…a foreign concept to me, though I know that patience is a virtue.  As you may have guessed, I do have a hard time harnessing patience.

So, how do you practice writing patience when a tsunami of words hit, and you’re fighting to capture every one of them?  You know the waters will rush back out to sea, leaving you deprived of a single element that makes sense if you don’t put it on paper now.  You recognize this.  It’s intense!  Right?

Write.  Keep writing…sense, and nonsense, and then sort it out later.

An opportunity will arise when you can take your proverbial scalpel to cut away those things that aren’t needed, and then add elements that bring more sense and comprehension to the picture. Sometimes, the nonsensical spurs new ideas. It’s hard when emotions are high, and you’re trying to use this flow to go with the tide.  Tides turn.  Capture what you can.  Be patient.  It will come.

I just had a wise friend tell me to leave something sit, and come back to it.  I took her advice, and she was correct.  I was able to look at my written piece and improve it.  This takes patience.  Crafting and editing takes time.   If your piece is “dogging you” too badly, work on something else for a while.

And then, this week I read an ebook by an author who suggested you ask five friends to write three things about you to help your find your writing voice.  It was also to help you see your blind side.   I did that.  I had some nice things sent back to me, and this is the one that stuck in my brain…

INTENSE…  (Who?  Me?)

Well, honestly, I kind of knew this, and I appreciated the honesty because I knew this person was trying to help me.  Then they told me that this was a good thing.  I found that fact a little befuddling, until they explained.

They said that I was intense to the point of making sure that I tried to get everything right, and I would keep working at it until I did. (Can I tell you how much I love my … this family member.)

So, with your writing, use both intensity and patience.  Write what you love, find your voice, be kind to yourself.  Keep writing.

 

Sincerely, BG

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Quotes and Analogies To Learn From


Don’t you just love quotes and analogies?  They can make your day, lift you up, and cause you to see things in a different way.  I’ve come across a few of them this week that have bumped around inside my brain like nagging thoughts tend to do.   I’ve pondered them, and considered not only how they help me to see things in a different way, but also how they touch me.

I actually love this picture, and the quote above by Josh Billings, because it makes me think of our two Jack Russell terriers that we lost a couple of years ago.  This saying for me is true… (and what a great love it is.)

“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.”

-Josh Billings

 

So, on to the next analogy.   I just heard this one a bit ago on a podcast by someone I follow.  The quote was by  guest, John Pollack, who is an author and former political writer.

 

His quote:

“Money comes and goes, but time only goes.”

-John Pollack

 

Well, that certainly makes you consider how you’re spending your time.

The next quote, found on a tweet by someone I follow and honestly, I don’t remember who the author of the quote is (I apologize).  The quote:

 

“You can do anything, But not everything.”

-David Allen  (I looked it up.)

 

Three different quotes I’ve been mulling over, like a dog with a bone.  (I couldn’t help myself.)   “If I can do anything, but not everything, and time goes, and my dog loves me more than he loves himself…

Then, I better stop wasting time, do what I love, and spend more time with the people I love because time is fleeting, your passion is worth it, and so are your loved ones.

Now, back to the thoughts, quotes, and analogies that rivet your soul… take a moment to write them, and consider them.  You may learn something, and if you share them, someone else may see a little more clearly.

What can I say,  I love quotes and analogies.  Words just do it for me.  Analogies are great ways to explain ideas, and make for writing better passages.  They even help us to clarify, and simplify.

Leave me an analogy or quote in the comments.  I’ll be looking for them today.   It will only expand our view.

Have a great day!

Sincerely, BG

 

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Choose You This Day…

Choose You This Day…
is to appoint your day for something good. Every day, use your abilities and opportunities, to choose your day, or to choose how you react in a given situation. There are many who need you to make a great choice. With one stroke of a pen, a tap of a key, or a word from your mouth, you add cheer, comfort, or not, to another’s day.

This life is not all about us.  It’s about giving and helping each other.  How many people do you know who have succeeded on their own?

There’s always someone behind the scenes in any success story,  or successful relationship, lifting them up, giving them advice, or helping them to change directions.   Ultimately that direction is yours to choose, but it comes at the cost of others’ efforts of meshing with you to make an enjoyable contribution for you both.   It takes two to converse, and it takes you being a friend to make a friend.

This quote was a contributing factor to this post today.

“My friends, ‘No man is an island.’  Whatever you are facing, God has not abandoned you, and neither should you abandon each other.”

-Billy Green, “Kiss and Tell Your Story”

Then, this morning I read a blog post where the author was talking about how to deal with criticism in your blog post.  He did well on his reply.  Sometimes, a comment comes, and takes you off guard, but you have to learn not to react and be who you are in every situation.  (Tough to do at times.)

If you’re reading this, more than likely, you’re a writer.  So, for your plan of action today set some time aside to…write a note, make a post, send a card, sing a song, tell a joke, or draw a picture, for someone who needs some cheer in their lives.  When the tide is strong and the undertow is pulling you down, put a smile on your face and help another.  It is true what they say:

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

-Wendy Mass, The Candymakers

Sincerely, BG

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