Writing Therapy: Methods to Knowing Who We Are and How to Live Well In Our Own Skin

Using words  in writing to entertain, tell narratives, uplift, educate, and delight are just one side of the silver coin; there is however another aspect of writing… “therapy.”  Writing to analyze thoughts, coordinate plans, and for thinking through deep concerns helps us to better know who we are and how to live well in our own skin.

This form of writing can help us process thoughts and find out “the who, what, when, where and how” of our concerns.

  1.  Who am I, and/or who do I aim to be?
  2.  What is the concern I’m dealing with?
  3.  When does/did this concern happen?
  4.  Where did I first notice it?
  5.  Why did it happen?
  6.  How am I going to work on the problem?

Asking ourselves these questions and then using writing therapy to work through our answers will help us to see any patterns that pop up.  At this point we can take measures to tweak or change those things needed for us to grow, and know ourselves better.  Read this article for more steps and practices: Psychology Today.

Most of us have a blind side.   And to our surprise when someone points it out to us, the options of changing this “something” through the writing therapy process are greater.  Using this practice gives us the ability to choose what to change, learn to accept who we are, and how to live well in our own skin.  Others may not like the changes they see, but it’s not about them.  This is our journey.  That’s not to say that we shouldn’t take wise council…but ultimately it is up to us.

Observing ourselves through practices in writing is good.

Introspection is good.  As William Godwin quotes:

“The philosophy of the wisest man that ever existed, is mainly derived from the act of introspection.”

-William Godwin

Developing a sense of self-confidence in ourselves, and what we are about, will benefit us, as well as others.  We have a better sense of who we are, and the direction we want to take in life, and in our writing careers.  It also shines a spotlight on the paths we have to choose from.  Writing therapy may seem simple, but this method can help us.

As children we learned kindness and compassion for others.  We also need kindness and compassion for ourselves.  When we are our best selves, then we can give the best of ourselves to others, in writing and in life.  Writing therapy helps you carry this out.  Here’s to us all finding the skin we love and living well in it.

 

Sincerely, BG

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Secrets, Scoundrel, & Delights in KDP Review


Author Kathy Henn is setting the Kindle World on fire with her latest book, “Secrets, Scoundrels, & Delights In KDP: Rising Above the Muck To Write & Publish 8 Books in 24 Days.”

Delighted in her new career, Kathy freely shares insights, secret discoveries, and answers typical questions that anyone may have before committing to the Kindle publishing process.  She discusses where to look for information, and gives caution on who, and what practices to avoid.

Being retired from the telecommunications industry, as well as having sold Multi Level Marketing products for many years, Kathy tells of the joy it brings having her own products to offer others for benefiting their lives.

Other discussions include the publishing industry, opportunities for new authors, how she personally feels about her own writing career, while offering advice to others interested in Kindle Digital Publishing..

If you long to author a book, or learn more about Kindle Publishing, I highly recommend this book.

You can find Kathy’s book here:

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Sincerely, BG

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Word Appeal- What Do Your Words Say?


Writing is about putting your thoughts on paper, arranged in a way to create word appeal for readers. Not only do writers long to create beauty, open minds and eyes, but they also want to say, “I care.  How can I help?”  What do your words say?

Like a jig saw puzzle, we work to find ways to inspire, and persuade with word appeal to help better inform, or create a joyous read for the reader.  There are many ways to go about this depending on your style and what you love to write about.

Review what you have written to find your style.  Practice writing phrases or words that move you, so that you can learn to move the reader.  Read daily. Write daily.  Don’t hesitate to cut words. Concise is best. (Subscribe on the left and grab 7 Tips to Writing Your Story.)

My brother has this awesome quote that I love, and the brilliance of it is that it came out of a casual conversation.

He didn’t think much of it because that’s how he thinks and talks, but to me it was monumental.  This one conversation completely changed how I viewed words.

It was fine with him for me to use this quote because he cares and shares.

“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”  -Zig Ziglar

Now the issue is to figure out how to group these words together not only to make them coherent, but to make them appealing and helpful to others. That is the process, taking each piece of the word puzzle, turning them, putting one or two back in the box, and finding the perfect spot to place the perfect word.

Sometimes, I review old blog posts, and passages in books and think, Maybe I could have said this better this way.  It’s part of the  process of  writing and tweaking to get your word appeal right.  And even if it’s not quite right the first time… write it, leave it sit and come back to it.  You can always improve it later. Sitting on your hands waiting for perfection is not likely to happen soon. Developing writing skills takes time.  Every day you grow a little more, you know a little more, and doing your best is the final outcome.  So, with every drip, drip of your word paintbrush… start your masterpiece.  One word upon another is just a couple of drops…but eventually, it might become a field of flowers.  Find an effective way to create word appeal to show you care.

And, always be you.

Sincerely, BG

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50 Quilting Tips For Beginners and Experienced Quilters Review

“50 Quilting Tips for Beginners and Experienced Quilters,” by Monna Ellithorpe can  truly be used by anyone.

I quilt on occasion, and though I’m not a beginner, or pro, I do have many years of quilting on my side.  I was able to quickly go through this book and find tips that I can use and would have never thought of.  Of course, as a quilter, it never hurts to learn more efficient ways to quilt.  I find that had I had this book before, I could have prevented some mishaps long ago.

In the past I’ve used the wrong thread, prewashed the wrong types of fabrics, or colors, and had disastrous results.  I didn’t know what I didn’t know, and learned by trial and fire.  There’s nothing worse than having colors bleed on each other, or having washed the wrong types of fabrics together to pull your expensive project out of the dryer covered in fuzz balls before you have even started quilting.   Fortunately, I did have a friend who was an expert quilter and I was able to call her for help, when we had time away from taking care of our families.

It is disappointing to invest time and money in fabric, as a gift for yourself, or someone else, to have that dream dashed.   This book will definitely come in handy.

In “50 Quilting Tips,” you will find ways to use your tools more beneficially, how to prepare and store fabrics, how to adjust table heights for a better work surface, find ways for tracing patterns, stabilizing fabrics, and more.

This is why I would recommend “50 Quilting Tips For Beginners and Experienced Quilters.”

You can find it here on Amazon.

Sincerely, BG

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Frustration…How Do You Deal With It?

Life doesn’t always go as planned. It seems like I just heard this yesterday.  Oh yes, I did, in a video by an author friend.

I will have to go watch the video again.

There  are days, or weeks, when life throws something out of the ordinary at us, and we get frustrated.

Frustration, how do you deal with it?

Find a place, or a space to calm down, and look at the situation as it really is. Walk away.  Get  perspective.  Even laugh if you can.  Most often, in the scheme of things, this is only major for the moment, and not for a lifetime.  Find a place of peace, figure it out.  Maybe, make a post about your annoyance.  Write.  It is cathartic.  Get your feelings on papers.  It could turn into a story.

And then pretend that you didn’t tell someone you had something fixed, to find out the system went bonkers on you.  You can work it out.  You will laugh about it a week from now.  Maybe tomorrow isn’t your day to laugh, but soon you will laugh.

Work on fixing the problem and being honest about it.  This is my honestly part. No one is perfect, and sometimes it’s good to let others see how life is.

And so now…off to church.  It is well…  It is well…  With my soul.

Sincerely, BG

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What Color Would You Be If You Were A Cupcake?

What color would you be if you were a cupcake? That’s a great question for us all. Join Breesy Brie as her family bakery gets ready for a school bake sale in this new story and activity book.

You’ll find word searches, mazes and places to put your child’s favorite recipes. They will explore measurement conversions, simple math, and other ideas about what it takes to run a bakery. This activity book is set for ages 7-9. (Cover Design assistance by Breesy Brie)

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Sincerely, BG

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