Our Words, And How They Affect Others

Our words can affect others more than we realize sometimes.  Let’s face it, we all do it…say something we which we had not said.   And then we beat ourselves up, or someone else does, for that tactless slip that we cannot believe we just uttered.  We can apologize, but sometimes what was said, or what others have said to us, stays ingrained for a long time.  Talk about a lasting impression!

That’s why it’s so important to stop and think before we speak.

This passage is one of my favorites. 

My heart is stirred by a noble theme
    as I recite my verses for the king;
    my tongue is the pen of a skillful writer.

You are the most excellent of men
    and your lips have been anointed with grace,
    since God has blessed you forever.

Psalm 45:1-2

 

We are not perfect.  Learning graceful speech may take time, and I know it will be worth it.

Here are some more resources to consider.

  • A gentle answer turns away wrath,
        but a harsh word stirs up anger.  -Proverbs 15:1 
  • article states that words can change your brain and affect your genes.  
  • The old saying, “You can catch more flies with honey, than vinegar,” I believe is profound.  

It’s important we condition ourselves to speak kindly, or with tact, when words need to be spoken.  So, when speaking to others today, speak kindly, and think kind thoughts.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”  -Wendy Mass, The Candymakers

 

Have a good day,

Sincerely, BG

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The Watcher

 

My eyes stay open through the watches of the night,

that I may meditate on your promises.

Psalm 119:148

 

The Watcher

The eyes aglow were watching

The forest in the night,

And sat atop a redwood

In shadowy moonlight.

 

This percher listened closely

For movement on the ground,

As North winds blew through swifty

Enhancing ev’ry sound.

 

The snapping of dry kindling

Sent creatures scurrying;

The watcher called out loudly

Atop the redwood tree,

 

“Hoo?  Who is in this forest?

Hoo?  Who has breached our realm?

Who dares disrupt our kingdom?”

Asked the Watcher from his helm.

 

A timid lamb stepped forward,

And bowed before the guard.

“I beg your pardon, Wise One,

This winter’s been so hard.

 

I’ve wandered from the Shepherd,

And lost my way back home.

I pray you give me mercy

For I am all alone.”

 

The sentry eyed the creature

Assessing friend or foe-

Then welcomed in the lost one

From winter’s blust’ry cold.

 

The lamb was all a shiver

Despite it’s wooly coat.

The Watcher motioned quickly,

“Please, bring the royal robe.”

 

The lamb was covered gently

In love and tender care.

“We are the Shepherd’s children;

You’re always welcome here.

 

The Shepherd is returning.

He told us to prepare-

To watch, and love with passion;

To guard His Word with care.”

 

The Watcher is the sentry,

Who warns that time is near.

“Safeguard your heart completely,

The Shepherd will appear.”

 

Take heed, my friend, please listen.

His promise still remains…

He’s coming for the Watchers

Who call upon His name.

 

B.G. Jenkins ©2017

Thinking of my friend, Debbie Williams on this one…

The idea came from her love of owls.

 

Sincerely, BG

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When the Light Goes Out…

When the light goes out…where do your turn?  Are you flailing about tripping over things looking for the light?  Where does your spark of inspiration come from?  If you’ve ever noticed…when one candle lights another, the first does not lose its light.  You may feel that you have lost yours, but take hope… there’s still a flicker glimmering low.  You just have to find a way to reignite the flame.

I’ve noticed for me my spark comes from friends, from words, from art and music.  Today it came from this quote, a Bible verse, and a lovely video my friend sent me to watch about art.  (Thank you, Friend.)

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled  by a spark from another person.  Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”    -Albert Schweitzer

That’s why it’s so great to look for the sparks around you.  Those creative things from others that inspire and rejuvenate.  That jolt that inspires you to take action and free the words, the music, or the art within.

Just like a spark that gives you a zap when you touch someone’s hand when the air is dry, those things that inspire you will bring hope and joy that will possibly spark a new creation. Whether it’s music, art or poetry…  use it.  Use whatever you can to make your art or work come alive.  I find hope in Bible verses.

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”  -Proverbs 27:17

Collaborations and masterminds are a great way to open the mind to new opportunities and to spark new ideas.  Though you don’t want to steal another’s work, you can model the techniques and make them your own.

 

“The artist must create a spark before he can make a fire and before art is born, the artist must be ready to be consumed by the fire of his own creation.” 

-Auguste Rodin

 

Today, I’m suggesting you look around you and discover that spark that will rekindle your light… and then let the fireworks begin.

Have a great day!

Sincerely, BG

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What Kind of Seeds are We Sowing?

 

Everyday we have to look at ourselves and ask, “What kind of seeds are we sowing?”  When the dark clouds arise, and the storms are a brew, we may wonder what we did to deserve this.  We may not deserve the dark clouds and storms, but in life, things happen, and we have to plan to plant seeds of goodness, despite what others are sowing.

Tony Robbins wrote this in a book many years ago:

“Act.  Don’t react.”  -Tony Robbins

He emphasized that no matter what someone else does, you get to choose how you want to respond.  So if you normally would respond with kindness, goodness and understanding you can, because that is your choice.  It’s not always easy to do when that touch of ire in your blood comes out, so make your choice ahead of time…”I will respond in kindness and truth.”

Even in a place of conflict, we must state our grievance and then forgive the other party, whether they ask for it, or not.  That releases you from carrying that burden around.

You may decide that you need to cast your seeds in another field, in richer and better soil, and leave that field behind.  Never stay in a field where others are trying to diminish the seed you’ve been given, either with unkindness or disrespect.  Decide for yourself if it was a slight oversight, or an act of disrespect, and continue planting your seeds of goodness.

Use your writing therapy to help you see things clearly. It’s a great stress reliever.

Robert Louis Stevenson quoted:

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seed that you plant.  -Robert Lewis Stevenson.

In the end, our lives will boil down to one thing…”What kind of seeds did we sow?”  Did we sow seeds of love, honesty, kindness, or did we sow seeds of ill will, and disrespect?  Sow good seeds…it matters.

Have a good day,

Sincerely, BG

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Breathe, Cry, Sing and Write…Is Your Heart In It?

Breathe, cry, sing and write…is your heart in your writing process?  When you write a great piece, all of this comes through in your writing…the emotion.

Have you ever read a great book and the words just bring all of these emotions together?  One minute your can’t breathe and the tears are falling, and the next you’re singing some great love song.  I love romances, and what better romance can you have in your stories than with your words, no matter what type of story it is.  When you’re in the element of writing, your heart and soul comes through, even in a scientific study.

You don’t believe this?  A great study will keep you tied to the page and you can’t look away.  It’s just so fascinating that you want to learn all you can about it.  This actually happened to me yesterday.  I was reading a study about polyphenols in foods, and the results they have on your overall health.  This doesn’t sound like much of a read, but I was glued to the page because of this doctor’s overall excitement about what he had discovered.  You could tell that he had put a lot of heart into his research, and his enthusiasm came through.  These are the types of things that keep readers coming back, your heart and emotion in the read.

Not everything is hearts and roses, and not everyone wants that.  However, whatever you’re writing, put some emotion into it, whether it’s a drama, romance, mystery or a scientific study.  We want to see you in it, as well as your perspective.

(Yes, this video is older, but it aligns with my point, and I like it.)

How do you get your heart into your writing?

  1.  Write about something your love.
  2.  Read something you love.
  3.  Learn about something you love.
  4.  Try reading some poetry (maybe this is only for me).
  5.  Listen to music as you write.
  6.  Doodle as you write.
  7.  Start writing and keep writing until you get into the flow. And if your topic is a report that you’re not really interested in, then find something in it that you love, and find a different way to look at it.  Then put your heart in it.

The quote in the picture above inspired today’s post.  I loved it, and then found the great picture.

We all love those heart felt moments.  No matter which form they come in.  Find yours.

Have a great day!

Sincerely, BG

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